Discussion in 'Ladies Lounge' started by Shadow, Sep 26, 2012.
lol it's no big deal
How do you ladies take compliments when compared to before?
Myself, if someone said 'wow, you look great', I'd say 'no I don't'.
I was always negative about myself, figured people were complimenting me as some sort of lip service. I have since learned to accept it and say thank you. I'm better at complimenting others, taking the focus away from myself.
Well it's good you've gotten better..you have to have some kind of confidence in yourself
I really had to work on myself and my self esteem/confidence. Know what changed it? Watching other people and studying them. I used to judge people based on what I saw. If they scowled, I thought they were miserable bitches/pricks (one example). I realized after looking at myself that those people may have a reason to look like that. Maybe they had a bad day, or got some bad news etc. I looked like that all the time because I was unhappy with myself, but it was mistaken for other things. Namely, people thought I was a bitch (see where this is going?) I always had my arms crossed (unapproachable body language) and never smiled. I wouldn't initiate conversation and kept to myself.
After contemplating this for a while, I decided to try something new. I smiled. I just went everywhere with a smile. Amazing the effect it had on myself and others. It led to more changes, improved self confidence and the person I am today.
I have made several changes since. It's a good feeling.
Well that's a good thing. It's difficult to make that kind of change
well it's probably hard to take a compliment when you're filtering out and determining what a compliment is based on who it is and how they look?
well it's okay when "so and so says that" because he's cute.
but if this and that says that...HELL NAW.
Hey, I was the girl that always said yes when the ugly boys asked her to dance. I didn't like to hurt feelings.
As far as looks go, I'd always get complimented on my height, which made me feel more uncomfortable than anything else. Outgrew it by the end of high school. Now I'll simply politely smile and go on about what I was doing.
I'm loling at myself. Sometimes when I reply I go off on a tangent or get too serious.
I think I'm too deep for this site, ha ha.
too deep for me? what are you trying to say Andrya????
Gal, how tall are you again? 6'0?
Not for you, for this site, lol. Having said that, I still apologize.
I'm willing to bet she's taller than 5', lol. I'll guess 5'10".
Oh damn, she replied before I did, LOL.
That's tall, I'm jealous!
just messin' wit ya
lol Gal is my height...nice
It's pretty awesome. Until having to shop for apparel & boats. And by boats I mean high heel shoes.
and i'm game....bring it
Boots, stillettoes, etc., etc.
Awesomeness...you're going down!!!
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