Discussion in 'Ladies Lounge' started by Shadow, Sep 26, 2012.
^ depends where you are touching
Some peoples kids.
ya'll didn't really address the needy-ness part of the post.
it's easy to poke fun about the touching part.
but what about the ability/willingness to need, and be needed?
That is ok, but Shadow and I were talking about excessively needy people. That's a turn off.
i make the mistake of thinking women are horny too.
i think its alright to comment about them. or when other guys compliment the one im with.
and this neediness issue...
I thought we cleared that up??
I think it's ok to compliment as well, the issue wasn't about that, but about what is considered a compliment.
Neediness issue? Do explain?
i just see neediness as something different.
What do you see it as?
There are likely several reasons one would be needy. I understand WHY a person may be needy. It doesn't make it any less annoying though.
I was in a relationship where the guy called CONSTANTLY, had to be stuck to me anytime we were together, complained or pouted if I wanted to sit on the opposite side of the couch. I was suffocated, so it lasted only a few weeks. I should mention I was only 16 at the time.
My sister is also needy when it comes to relationships. Probably why hers only last a few weeks/months, and the reason why at 38 she is still single. She is whiny, demanding, attention starved. It's just not attractive.
My thing Andrya is that all people need to have their Independence...If someone is too needy, i believe they can't function on their own and will rely 100% on someone else. I get that in a relationship there are times when happens but it should not happen all the time. If you aren't strong enough to formulate your own strength at times, i can't expect you to be my strength if i need a pillar. With my body in constant pain, there are times when i need a strength of someone. So neediness is a big turnoff for me
That's a fair enough statement.
Everyone should be independent, self sufficient. Naturally there will be times when we all need someone to lean on, and that's ok. It goes with being human, because each of us has a breaking point or a weakness that requires the aid/ear/assistance of another. Be it a health issue, traumatic experience or just a bad day, sometimes we just can't do it on our own and need the strength, be it physical or mental, of another.
Growing up, my mother was the epitome of strength. She had the heart of a saint, the patience of Job (forgive the religious terms, but it's what we always said), and would sit up all night talking if you needed her, even if she had to work in the morning. She NEVER let anyone be alone for Christmas, and we would often wake in the morning to strangers on the couch. She (we) had no money, but she gave in every other way she could. We could always depend on her for anything.
She was the strongest person I have ever known, but there came a time when she finally needed someone to lean on. She was diagnosed with terminal cancer, given 6 months to live. I stayed by her side that entire time, feeding/cleaning/taking care of her. Letting her talk. Letting her cry.
I learned during that time just how human she was.
In my life there has been no greater person. I learned so much from her, especially about giving my time/ear/patience etc. to another.
Fuck I miss her.
Anyway, sorry about all that ^, It was my story of how I understand what you were saying.
i understand where you're coming from. but i still see it differently.
neediness is probably closer to a gift and curse than anything.
She sounds like a great person.
Hey, no law against having different views, if we all had the same ones, the world would be pretty boring, me thinks.
The majority of time I don't take compliments seriously, since most of them are followed by "I need a favour."
Unless the compliment comes without strings attached. Then I'm taking and running with it.
Me and my mother are the opposite of you and yours lol
I've never really been good at taking compliments, though I'm better than I used to be.
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