Why don't some females orgasm during sex??

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  1. R-Tistic

    R-Tistic Your favorite DJ

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    Me n some of my homeboys/homegirls were havin a convo about whatever, and as usual, sex came up. One of the girls said that she has had sex a good number of times, and she's been with three dudes...but she's never had an orgasm during sex. She said she can cum easy from masturbatin or bein fingered, but she's never had an orgasm from sex before. She said she still loves havin sex, and it feels good...but she just can't cum. Another girl was like "damn, I feel bad for you, but my cousin said the same thing" so I guess it might be more common than it sounds like.
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  2. DjayCasper

    DjayCasper Eh Fuck It.

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    its cuz they suck @ life.
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  3. Ignorant

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    It is pretty common... it could be that dude isn't hittin' the right spots or she may have a mental hangup about sex. I also read that most of the nerve endings in the vagina are in the front entrance and that many women don't experience all of their nerve capabilities until they get in their 30's, which is peak time... So most female orgasms tend to be clitorally centered. He should probably focus on positions where he can manually stimulate the clitoris during penetration or try to find her G-spot and wear that thing out. That works for me.
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  4. b'

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    Its a matter of them being in the right place @ the right time. Probably that and the amount of work you put in during sex. I can tell when my girls catches an O, but some days I just don't give a fuck and just want to nut. Anyhow experiment and learn to read her body language. If you can master body language you can make any chick can an O.
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  5. Ignorant

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    ^Foreplay, too... for some reason, chicks seem to need that shit... get her moist and warm and beggin' for the cock... eat it, finger it, suck the titties, whatever you have to do.... occasionally, throw in a "I love you" if she's feeling apprehensive about sex in general.
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  6. sweet_I

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    I have this issue...

    Many women need direct clitoral stimulation to get off. I use a clit vibe while with my husband and sometimes that works enough.

    Some women may also need a little longer. The reason forplay works is because it takes longer for women to reach orgasm than it does men. If you...eat it, finger it, suck the tities...it gives the women the stimulation she needs for as long as she needs. Some sexperts also suggest women masterbate b4 getting with their guy to get them started.

    Also, for most women length isn't an issue but thickness is. The walls of the vagina arn't overly sensitive so men with thick penises do a little better at pleasing their woman.

    I tend to like it hard, fast (as in strokes not length of time) and long which is difficult for most men, with clitoral stimulation and sometimes anal too. Tell your friend to check out adam and eve or other sex toy stores and experment with some toys with her man. At the very least its fun to experiment and shake things up a bit.
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  7. Dely

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    i heard that a chic will orgasm from being on top .. mainly cuz she control her stimulation
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  8. sweet_I

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    ^oh yeah, that too. Its mostly 'cause its easier on top to get that clitoral stimultaiton
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  9. Short2003

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    OMG perverts
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  10. Short2003

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    kidding of course
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  11. Ignorant

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    ^So Short, do you orgasm during sex?
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  12. UnbrokeN

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    orgasm through penile penetration
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  14. badassyella

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    its all about stimulation
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  15. Ignorant

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    Just curious, how many women here who have problems orgasming through intercourse also masturbate regularly?
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  16. sweet_I

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    I know what your getting at, Ignorant, and it is very possible that masterbation is the problem. I've been thinking about this alot since this post. Yes, I masterbate regularly and use clitoral stimulation so I may be making things a little difficult for husband however, there are times when I can't even get myself off. Its like I'm right there but it takes too long so I give up (so I can't really blame my husband when he gives up). There are also times when I have tried using a dildo with no clitoral stimulation just as an experiment and that has worked. Its easier when you do it yourself 'cause you know the speed, when to stop or slow or get harder or softer. You have more control so you can make it work.

    I think, with me anyway, it has alot to do with time. I've spoken to friends who agree with me about that. It just takes a little longer for a women to get off. Sometimes hours. Which sux for everyone involved.

    Also I find that when I do have an orgasm I am not always satisfied. I can get off real quick to start with, with just clitoral stimulation but it isn't always satisfying and I want more. If he is patient the second one takes work but its a mind blower. Problem is I like to be, um...fucked LOL, for lack of a better word. I like it hard and fast with no breaks. Not always easy to keep up that pace.

    Thats why we have toys
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  17. cp3boy

    cp3boy FRIENDS 2 THA END

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    I wonder if old boy puts his tounge in it lol
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  18. Gorilla Nasty

    Gorilla Nasty I'm lame TBH

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    Maybe having sex too much?
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  19. sweet_I

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    ^I don't think thats possible
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  20. Da420doc

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    in my personal experience you need to mentally stimulate your/a girl during sex. foreplay works well but its the way you handle foreplay and sex thats going to make her cum. some gils like to be caressed some like to be held firmly, read the body language and see what direction they're going in. this sounds wierd but watch lesbian porn, you'll see the girls are more about how they do something then what they do. for example, while you're going down run your hand from her stomach up to in between her breasts then onto her titties. some girls may want you to grab them by the throat fromt here some may want to suck a finger some may not. its al trial and error. you should have a system of figuring this out the first couple times youre fucking around. and communication also helps before youre actually doing it. i mean who doesnt have the "what do you like?" sex conversation?
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