My friends daughter went to a wildlife park today with her school. when she got home she had a bag full of goodies, toys and pencils, and badges and some stickers etc. her mum was looking through the bag and she found the stickers and said: "they couldn't have given the butterflies to the boys" I was like, "whats wrong with boys having butterflies?" she gave me a "are u serious?" look. I thought it was a prime example of how notions of masculinity and femininity are created. To me, a butterfly is a fairly neutral thing thats why it struck me all the more powerfully. Then I thought, what is wrong really with girls having butterflies and boys being excluded from them, I mean does it really matter? Maybe it doesn't matter, but why stifle a boys admiration of a butterfly?