swingers? open marriages? sexual infidelity?

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  1. Brahm@n

    Brahm@n New Member

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    what are your thoughts on swingers and open marriages?

    as each day passes, i'm becoming more of a champion for this cause...

    my motto is: "if the bond is real and cemented by something deeper, it should be able to survive sexual license..."

    partially inspired by a famous DMX quote and partially by the experiences i've had in my current relationship

    my girl and i recently went through a separation during which she fucked a couple of my homeboys/i banged one of her friends... when we reunited, the passion was incredible. we both reassured each other that "they couldn't do it like you, baby" and had the greatest session ever. better than make-up sex after a fight.

    she's always had a wandering eye and been willing to tell me whenever she finds another dude attractive. i get jealous, but it's a good and healthy form of jealousy. i don't direct any animosity towards the dude even he winks or smiles back as it makes me want to dick-cuff her even tighter, motivates me to perform better in the bed. i almost want to say to her, "well, go see if he wants to fuck"

    she's a hypocrite though, because she instantly gets heated if i even look favorably in another girl's direction

    so, i don't think she's quite at the state of mind to ever want an ongoing open relationship




    i know there are cons to the arrangement though... it might not all be freewheeling, smoothly circulated love. you have to worry about things like diseases, dicking down another woman so good that she gets hooked to you and will start fatal attraction glenn closely pursuing you for something more, etc.

    it can complicate things, but i think romantic bonds shouldn't be prevented from undergoing these kinds of tests every now and then
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  2. UnbrokeN

    UnbrokeN Well-Known Member

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    swinguers_nore
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  3. Kal-L

    Kal-L A Right Nonce

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    not against open relationships, but I don't see the point in getting married if that is what you want.

    I also think they're usually doomed from the start, but the same could be said of marriage.
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  4. Brahm@n

    Brahm@n New Member

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    in an open relationship, there is room for emotional and sexual infidelity

    in an open marriage, you are ceremoniously committing for emotional fidelity but leaving the option of sexual exploration open
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  5. Look im Gangsta

    Look im Gangsta New Member

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  6. Kal-L

    Kal-L A Right Nonce

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    There's always room for emotional and sexual infidelity. And you can commit w/o marriage. I just think marriage should be reserved for 'one person only' relationships, I guess.
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  7. Kal-L

    Kal-L A Right Nonce

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    Leila?
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  8. Shadow

    Shadow Kotaro's Master

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    I agree
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  9. Leila Night

    Leila Night efrain,you're my one&only

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    Monogamy > this thread.

    Yes, my love?
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  10. reciprocity

    reciprocity just a baby

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    I think it's retarded.
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  11. Look im Gangsta

    Look im Gangsta New Member

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    I don't recall making that post.

    Anyway, I'm more of a fan of a relationship under lock and key.

    It may end up crumbling, but it'll do a darn sight better than it would if she went off fucking other men.

    I'm a hypocrite.
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  12. Brahm@n

    Brahm@n New Member

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    word, i guess i'll stop being a champion for the cause

    no need to force the lifestyle on those who don't want it, but i only wish this alternate route were more mainstream and not denounced

    it is one of peace, unity, and communal love
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  13. UnbrokeN

    UnbrokeN Well-Known Member

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    dont be too hard on yourself , child..
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  14. reciprocity

    reciprocity just a baby

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    It's okay Denny, you can get help for that..
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  15. UnbrokeN

    UnbrokeN Well-Known Member

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    you as my indian child sex slave? deal?
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  16. Shadow

    Shadow Kotaro's Master

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    i sense alot of frustration in this thread :-D
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  17. Leila Night

    Leila Night efrain,you're my one&only

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    Yeah, I do that. =)
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  18. Yahunyahti

    Yahunyahti New Member

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    I say that if that is how the couple wants to express themselves sexually, and both are comfortable with it, it's nobody else's business.
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  19. Look im Gangsta

    Look im Gangsta New Member

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    Yahooandi is wise beyond his years.
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  20. Pyro Tecknik

    Pyro Tecknik Harbinger of DOOM

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    word@ 70 and lei
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