I feel that, but porn doesn't need to serve those other needs. Its sole purpose is to provide a fantastical sexual experience. If I need those other needs or dimensions met in a person, then I go and look specifically for those things. I think it's wrong to expect or demand that every person display everything that YOU need in a human being. I even have trouble with assigning certain dimensions of a human to a particular hierarchy. Who is to say that the sexual identity is any less than the spiritual or emotional one? Objectifying is simply defining a certain standard or characteristic in a person. We all do it everyday. Women objectify men as sexual objects, money objects, fix-it objects, venting objects, etc. The same applies for men. Children objectify their parents as protector and provider objects. Nobody is particularly "reduced" in those instances. I think you can only be "reduced" when you're objectified in a sense that is unnatural. Sex is completely natural. I'm intelligent enough to not demand or expect my wife to be exactly like the sex objects in porn. Just like she's intelligent enough to not expect me to be like any of the other male entertainers she idolizes on tv and film. True... I was speaking from my perspective to let you know that I don't have a problem with separating fantasy from reality, nor with feeling secure about myself after watching men who only represent a small percentage of the population when it comes to their physical gifts. I do consider my partner's needs and security level... we've actually watched some flicks together so that we can learn some techniques. I think you tend to ignore the education element that exists in that genre. It can be very enriching to couples with open minds and a sense of adventure.