That's... actually very interesting. (The use of Mick Foley helped a lot too.) I think I understand what you're saying, but I'm not sure I understand how it relates to sexual orientation. This is some Jung psychology we're on if I'm understanding it correctly. (Though I did not watch the videos, I am familiar with what happened in the second one. Keeping in mind that though he was playing a character, he was also doing it within the archetype of a dark rival, one with feminine qualities.) I can see the three fold dynamic of male, female, and child going on. We have, metaphorically, the golden sun as our father and the Earth as our mother. It is here in between that we humans exist. We come from the Earth, and as our mother, it gives us food and nourishment. The Sun father however gives us light and direction. It is within a healthy combination between these that we thrive. Now, there is a certain quality that divides people. Which is the desire to be motivated and move forward. We all come from our Earth mother, but there are those of us that choose to seperate. We become individuals and realize our own power and take up the mantle of our Sun father. Those that don't are those that give up, and continue to suck at our mother Earth's teats. And why not for either case? Why not become an individual and harnass the power we have? Likewise, why not be hugged and snuggled and catered by our mothers? The engulfment you speak of, as I'm understanding it, is essentially an extreme case of being a "mama's boy." In which we never want to leave our mother's embrace. How this relates to lesbianism though is... well.. here is the thing. Each human is composed of feminine and masculine qualities. It's up to us to maintain a balance as well as an identity. A lesbian is like any other human being and will express this balance as they see fit within how they are capable. (Some of us can't fully express ourselves as we've yet to become fully realized humans.) This applies to all humans, of course. Some lesbians are very much about this engulfment you speak of. Yet I know one in particular who is all about a strap on, and whose favorte porn is cum on a woman's face. (She is very hyper-masculine.) I think though the idea of seeking engulfment is more related to Peter Pan Syndrome than anything else. It's the refusal to grow up, the refusal to accept responsibility, and the need to be protected and shielded by others. It's giving up our own power in order to be safe. Does that make sense?