My Bullied Son's Last Day on Earth

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  1. identity-X

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    I didn't see this the first time around, but I guess the CNN article does mention gender and sexuality as a factor...in passing...

    Here are a couple of links related to the specific case that addresses gender/sexuality more clearly as a factor.

    Another victim of homophobic bullying - Broadsheet - Salon.com
    Anti-Gay Bullying Claims Another: Jaheem Herrera, 11, Kills Himself / Queerty
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  2. Dex Lewis

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    What is your solution Id?
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  3. identity-X

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    more inclusive constructions of masculinity. teaching young boys that it's okay to play role playing games instead of sports, that it's okay to wear pink, to like musicals, that it's okay if they can't do 10 pushups or bench press 200lbs and okay if they don't like gun culture or fighting and okay if they choose to be monogamous or chaste...and to teach young boys that it's okay if other young boys don't adhere to (or even oppose) masculine ideals like those above. (insert "young girls" and "femininity" as well...)

    the home is the starting point. it would be splendid if tv or video games or even schools didn't construct (consciously or not) conceptions of masculinity and femininity that are so strict, but since that's not likely parents will have to teach young boys how to navigate the gendered world around them. large scale media literacy would be a good start. large scale discussion about gender per se (shit, most folks don't even know the difference between gender and sex) and gender issues WITHOUT the "militancy" of uber-radical (and generally second-wave) feminists and the backlash and resentment of those who feel they are losing their "rightful" status on top of the totem pole would be good too.

    good luck, eh?

    it would take a book or 100 to lay out any real "plan" or solution. luckily, a handful of people are producing this work on film and in writing.
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  4. Radium

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    so how does that stop bullying
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  5. identity-X

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    i'm hard pressed to think of an example where gender is NOT at the heart of bullying...

    Someobody could be bullied because they stole something from the bully, or snitched on the bully, etc.

    ...but even those actions are often gendered. "Real men" don't snitch. That's a "bitch move".

    Just ask Craig Kilbourn's character from Old School.
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  6. Radium

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    so when we teach them that

    bullying will stop?
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  7. identity-X

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    of course! it's the end-all-be-all solution to all bullying EVAR!









    (no. but it would likely curb gendered violence and since a very large proportion of child and adolescent bulling is gendered violence.......)
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