"Marry me" would you ask the guy?

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  1. D!CK

    D!CK New Member

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    Or would you feel un-traditional if you did?
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  2. Short2003

    Short2003 AbsoluteHotness

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    I would say "lets get married" and then see what happened..But I wouldn't I straight out purpose to a guy..For us we always knew we were gonna get married and one day he was like, lets get married and I was like OK then..I know it's untraditional but Im fine with it...lol..Now Im the one thats putting it off.. heh
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  3. Chokolate

    Chokolate Melts N Ya Mouth

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    Nah I cant say that I would...I like to be pursued so I couldnt bring myself to ask...lol I've never even asked a guy for their phone number.
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  4. Gotti23

    Gotti23 Come 2 the darkness

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    Hey chokolate you want my phone number?
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  5. Chokolate

    Chokolate Melts N Ya Mouth

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    post it up :wink:
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  6. Hidden_Poetry

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    Nope. Can't say I would/could. I'm very shy to begin with. I can do the whole "Let's Get Married" thing. Or just bring it up and discuss it. But I doubt I'd be the one to flat out ask (Actually, I wasn't the one to flat out ask lol).
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  7. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Knowing me, I wouldn't... but then again, knowing me, I might.
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  8. Gotti23

    Gotti23 Come 2 the darkness

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    Ok my number is 1-900-2Cashville call anytime.
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  9. skandelous_lala

    skandelous_lala back from the dead

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    No I wouldn't. I'm too "traditional" for that.
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  10. In-Awe.

    In-Awe. .. Speak On It..

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    It Wouldnt Be The Same Or.. As Serious If I Did It..

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  11. Chokolate

    Chokolate Melts N Ya Mouth

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    Im call you tonight at 9 be ready
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  12. sagacious infant

    sagacious infant reflecting the sun

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    lol...what tights said.

    lol = I had a whole long response, but it was basically summed by what she said
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  13. Nicki

    Nicki ~Tease~

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    lol Nah i dont think i would, if i wanted to and thought maybe he did to i'd hint a bit lol hum "here comes the bride" lmao
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  14. D!CK

    D!CK New Member

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    I'm shocked at you ladies replies...lol.. most of you get pursued all the time but you can't bring yourself to pursue that special guy?

    shame on you all...lol


    well ladies I'll admit I'm non-traditional because I've seen how a man's love for his woman don't always transfer vice versa so I'm gonna wait until I'm asked. then I'll know she's for real.
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  15. Maurkadi

    Maurkadi Well-Known Member

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    alot of yall gonna stay single for the rest of yall life lol... it kinda seems like yall scared to say what yall want... if a cashier cheats you out of $20 you gonna wait for the cashier to mention that they owe you change and then leave the store?
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  16. Hidden_Poetry

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    Good Point!!!! ;o)
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  17. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    There is a difference in speaking up to demand something that is owed to you ($20) and asking for someone's hand in marriage. For some women it boils down to tradition, they just wouldn't ask because... well, they don't really know why not other than its not "normal" for women to do it or that women aren't "supposed to"... societal norms dictate that men do the asking... women are supposed to be "chosen".

    You also have women who wouldn't do it because they don't want to ask or put pressure on a man before he's ready... they don't want to come off as to pushy or agressive... to them, him asking is the best indicator that he's ready.

    Then there are other women who simply don't want to deal with the rejection if he happens to say "no".

    I'm sure there are other reasons women opt not to ask, those are just the few that came to mind.

    One thing I would do for sure is start a discussion on marriage to find out his views and let him know that I was considering him as a prospect... if marriage was my goal and he let me know that he didn't consider me as a prospect I would move on... but I don't know that I'd ask a man to marry me... I just couldn't say its something I would never do... maybe I just haven't found anyone I wanted to ask, yet [dunno].
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  18. AngeL X

    AngeL X Kick Rocks!

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    My current boyfriend.. I asked him to be my mine...so if me and him do make it 2 that step.. it's his turn...lol
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    MiSt_Of_CoNfUsIoN Ray of Sunshine

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  20. straight_evil

    straight_evil Mrs. Sole

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    I doubt that I would, I don't think it's because I'm traditional, but probably more because I don't do well with rejection.
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