We have a lot of parents here..so hopefully they'll be a lot of insight in this thread. I am not yet a parent...but no doubt plan to be one. I have friends who are parents and they feel strongly against leaving their children with babysitters/daycares/ect. Most of them only leave their children with trusted friends and family members. Then again most of my friends with children are SAHMs so they don't have to worry about finding somebody that has their schedule for baby sitting the kids b/c they don't have to go to work or classes everyday. Me and one of my friends were talking the other day and she was talking about seeing those hidden camera tapes on Maury and what not..that shows babysitters abusing the children they are supposed to be taking care of her. I agree with her in the fact that even more so after seeing shit like that, I would be terrified to leave my child(ren) alone with somebody I didn't know and trust 100%. My mom then mentioned the last time I talked to her that she wished she could have stayed at home with us at least until we were all school age and she personally thought one parent should at least stay at home until the children are school age. People who are already parents all seem to have strong feelings about the subject one way or another. Feelings that I can't quite yet understand since I don't have children. However I always thought I'd be the "super-mom"..have the career and the family. But I don't like the idea of 'strangers' raising my children while I work. If it was somebody I totally trusted it might be different to have them watch my kids while I & my partner were working. But what choices do you have when you do want family and a career? Those who have kids and jobs..what do you do? If you have a babysitter who wasn't necessarily a close friend or family member first...were you leary having one at first?