Ladies HELP!!!

True enough.

I don't know that I'd want to jump right into a relationship with her.
Seems to me that she'd have luggage. I have no where for her to unpack so...

I didn't know what that meant.

I agree with tight-eyes this girl seems like she's done this before. The fact that she's thinking about marriage and then telling you she's unhappy...something is not ringing a bell here. Drama that's really not needed. She's probably trying to make dude jealous. Don't waste your time.

Thanks PC.

An update...

The girl keeps telling me that if her and I get involved on an intimate level it won't be until after she ends the relationship. She's giving him the chance to rectify matters. If he doesn't she says she'd rather call it quits with him first than cheat.

I think the fact that you're asking us for advice speaks volumes on its own. You know what to do; don't second-guess yourself.

We went out the other night and she's really wrestling with the idea that even talking to me may be cheating. I'm really starting to dig the girl.

Age: 27

And U Ask For Some Help.. Pathetic.

Could be worse.

"A gun in your face and that's all you could come up with?"

I never knew advice was age-specific.

Simpleton. If you're going to throw jabs make sure you hit your mark.

[funny]..



*Taps Nose*




Don't do it dukie.. It ain't worth it at all....

Another update...

I'm an idiot. I caught feelings over this woman after being exposed to her daily.
She gave me the impression she was leaving him. Then later told me she was going to stay.
Now I'm on some Carl Thomas "wish I never met her" type stuff.

We never slept together though.
At worst, I end up with egg on my face.

Thanks again for the advice ya'll.

You probably caught feelings because she made herself vulnerable to you... and that combined with the fact that she wants you to "rescue" her from a failing relationship, or at the very least, provide her with physical comfort, most likely stimulated your ego and sense of responsibilty and care for "the weaker vessel."

Join the club... we're cursed, dude.


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Well, I can say the exact same thing happened to me this past month. Only thing is, I'm the dude whose girl was seeking attention from some other guy online. The only way I found out is because the dude actually emails me telling me that he felt led on because she was talking to him and discussing our business in detail and hanging out together when I wasn't home. Long story short, she got herself into a stupid situation and is now living with that guilt. For him, well, his dumbass should've used common sense. You never want to mess with someone under those circumstances. The shit will backfire on you in the long run. Don't even tempt yourself, my man. Never worth it. Good thing things never progressed.

Ciao!

Igs you were dead on about this man. Dead on.

She emailed me on some "Merry Christmas" type shit this past weekend...

I'm like, "kick rocks".

Heck, in addition to being a player-hatin' mad rapper, I'm also a hack psychologist.

Seriously though, been there... done that.



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Thanks though.

I will play devil's advocate and tell you what you want to hear and need to hear...get her to have sex. it's the only way to get her off your mind and on with life. If's she anything like me, you don't matter, you're just a quickie to relieve built up stress. She's not going to keep you around and you shouldn't want to stay. she has a man and you're not it.

don't feel like you're being used because although you are, the male ego for sex overrides this notion that "being used" matters. just get your rocks off and don't look back.

*The weekly male-bashing meeting is now adjourned*

Apparently you stopped reading half way through the thread.

Here's another update...
I hadn't talked to the girl for a couple weeks.
The moment me and my ex get back together she's back in full force.
Sending me email after email. Sending me text messages. The whole nine.

It's sad really. I won't even give her the time anymore.