Is Trust Given or Is it Earned? When you are in a new relationship, do you automatically trust the person that you are with? Or does that person have to earn your trust? Do you just openly let you mate know that they are not trusted until further notice, in the beginning? Do you expect to be trusted in the beginning of a relationship or do you feel that you should have to earn your trust also? I feel trust is something to be earned. I don't trust or distrust anyone when I enter a new relationship. There is just a certain protocol of things that you do and don't do (common sense). So, basically, whoever I'm with is in the middle. I don't actually TRUST them, but I don't distrust them either. Until I have reason to view things in a different light. There has to be some chain of events that causes me to push you to either one side or the other.