My grandmother still has my grandfather's last name, although they were divorced eons ago... long before I was even born. She's remarried since then... and still kept the name. All of her children were conceived with her first husband, and they all have the same last name as him, as well. I believe her wanting to retain that connection and identity with her children factored into her decision not to change her name again. Plus, she'd built a pretty solid career for herself, using her married name, and I don't think she wanted to deal with the hassle of having to change her "professional" name. "No, Mr. Boss Man... my name isn't Mrs Brown anymore... ummmm no, it's not Ms. Black [again], either... it's now Mrs Green." Wash, rinse and repeat with every other professional collegaue and associate. Possibly have to answer personal questions about the nature of yet another name change. Etc. Fugg that... men ain't gotta go through all that b.s. Why should I have to? I'm with you... I understand how/why a man's pide/ego would be offended by my refusal to change my name, but he'd just have to understand... or we wouldn't be getting married. His pride doesn't trump my practical reasons for wanting to keep my name... exactly how it was when he met me. [And, technically & legally, it would be MY name, not my ex's. The name didn't "belong" to my ex, in the first place]. He knew my name when he met me... if it was that big of a deal, he should have never dated or fell in love with me... and he most DEF shouldn't have proposed marriage without finding out where I stood on the matter, if it was all that important to him in the first place.