My kid's father is in prison, and my older son, the one who understands, doesnt feel like he is without a father, and while I have my issues with my baby daddy, my son still goes to see his father for 8 hours EVERY saturday. When he wasnt in prison, We didnt have any set custody or child support or anything but my son saw his father every day. Even when he and I were having major issues, Jason knew he could come and see his son at any time, and he did. I was BLESSED with a fucking AWESOME father for my children. He and I did not get along in the end at all, we could not speak one sentence to eachother without a heated all out brawl. But he has always been and will continue to be there for his kids. The best thing for every kid is to have both of their parents, the SMART thing for every man & woman is to come down to earth and realize that often times, at certain times, both of you are going to have to sacrifice something. Alot of men end up with just weekends due to work schedules and things like that, the important thing is to make the best of the time that you have. The best interest of the child, is the only thing that should ever matter when you go through a breakup that involves kids. Even if the little boy or girl didnt HEAR their father tell their mother that he was going to murder her, or whatever kinds of verbal abuse the father threw that way... dont you think it effects the kid to have their mother be so upset? to see their mother crying? In my opinion, you cant be gone for weeks at a time and then suddenly show up because a holiday is coming and demand to see your child. If you want to be there for your kid, be there for your kid, 24/7 whenever they need you, but dont expect for your baby mama to bend over backwards for you to give you what you need when you need it because SHE is not concerend with YOU only about your child... and sometimes, The daddy... Or the Mommy... Just arent what's best.