Females why y'all act so naive when it comes to having "GUY" friends

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  1. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    me, too... I've been peeking in between studying, but these midterms are kicking my ass so I realy shouldn't be posting at all!
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  2. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Thanks for the reply, Ig... I see where you're coming from. I don't think it applies to all men, but I feel you.
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  3. Ignorant

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    Only heterosexual men who are honest about their sexual feelings... not gay men nor post-modern men who deny and repress their sexual urges, because it's "uncivilized" and "barbaric" to be wanton... being in touch with their "feminine side" makes them feel more complete and wholly human.
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  4. how did you put sex and repression together and come up with 'feminine side'?
    It's not about being in touch with their feminine side if they should so decide to repress their animalistic urges. You can be in a relationship with a female and never feel the need to repress. (That is act on sexual feelings, not being attracted to them alone).Hetrosexual men who do not act on their feelings are not doing to feel more in touch with their feminine side, they do it because they feel its not right to try and have sex with every woman they meet. I may very well be attracted to a woman, but its about the choices I make when I am around her that defines me, not the sex people claim I must be after because I am a man and she is a woman.

    Additionally, post modern-men repressing their sexual urges is not a new thing. It's what seperates us from the animal kingdom and has happened since we were civilised enough to form advanced societies.
    on a side note, every man has a feminine side to some degree, some just choose to deny it. The complete man embraces that side of himself which he could not be without. We are half woman, how could we not be feminine?
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  5. ~Eloquent

    ~Eloquent Narcissistic....

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    honestly i wish i could find some women i could just kick it with...
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  6. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    so... any man who befriends a woman he finds even remotely attractive without the ulterior motive of getting some nookie is either 1) gay or 2) effeminate..?

    you're such a beast.
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  7. Ignorant

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    Because when you're sexually attracted to someone and don't act upon that desire, then you will repress. Otherwise, where does that desire go? Does it magically dissipate once you become "friends?" No. Repression has long been a feminine technique to preserve "purity." Men traditionally don't repress... they surrender to the woman's objections.

    Where are your quotations around "animalistic?" Don't you know that humans are higher than animals? Those are humanistic urges, as well... but if you're gonna speak philosophically, then yes, we're all animals... so surrendering to base instinctual urges is not wrong, but natural.

    Of course... if I'm not attracted to her. If I am and there are extenuating circumstances, then I must repress... or find a new friend.

    See, you're twisting my point... it's not every woman they meet. Only the fine, sexy "bad mamma jammas."

    What defines you are your thoughts as well. So you may choose not to act, but your sexual thoughts of her will betray any facade of... ahem... "decency."

    Face it, man... sex is not evil. The Puritans were prude, dude!
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  8. Ignorant

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    Not necessarily effeminate... just in denial.

    How can you truly have a platonic friendship with someone you're sexually attracted to? Think about it.

    It just doesn't make sense... your actions will be dictated by that repressed desire to bone. It's not fair to the friend, either, who thinks the relationship is completely innocent.


    woman: "Oh, I've had such a bad day today" [she falls into her male friend's arms]

    man: [immediately grows an erection] "Er.. uh... (clears throat) "It's alright, you can talk to me"


    He's not going to listen adequately with an erection... the blood flows from the brain and makes him feel light-headed.
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  9. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    I think we need to define 'platonic'... I looked it up earlier in this topic, just to make sure I wasn't trippin:

    "Platonic:
    not involving sexual relations - involving friendship, affection, or love without sexual relations between people who might be expected to be sexually attracted to each other
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    Not that you dont think shes cute... but if you ain't havin 'relations', to my understanding, its platonic. I don't know... I just think that there are some guys that can find a woman attractive but not try/want to sleep with her for various other reasons, and yet still maintain a friendship. I understand that some people just couldn't, though... so I really do feel you... I don't think thats all bad... I just dont think it applies to every man who doesn't happen to be a homo or a girly-man.



    I'm not saying the best of buddies - hanging every day, going shoe shopping or for mani/pedi's... we have gay male friends for that... I'm just saying I think its possible to be a friend without your every action being predicated upon trying to get the drawls... looking out for her like you would for one of your boys.

    I have male friends whom I go to for advise on men, exchange crazy emails/stories with, have drinks with (being the only girl in the group when we go out pretty much reinforces why some of them are 'just friends'), work out with, smoke with, party with, etc... I just enjoy their company. I believe that 'friends first' relationships are ideal, but I'd like to think that getting some ass isn't the only reason they hang around - one of the reasons..? ok... fine... but, damn... not the only one! I tell good jokes and shit, too!!!



    stop watching so much porn! honestly... who does that..?!?! LMAO!


    I thought that was a myth. sorta like when y'all used to tell us you could die from catching blueballs, just to get some play ;-*
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  10. ahh, I found it eventually...

    Repressing makes you feminine? A man cannot and has not repressed to preserve his purity? I your ideas of repression freudian? You need to be more specific.

    Desires aren't all defining things, why? because we are faced with a decision over our desires, and our actions define our behaviour. you make out as if a man cannot overide his own feelings for a higher good. He can, and often when it comes to the difficult matter of sex he does, and does right. I find a lot of women attractive, but am I trying to sleep with them all? no. can I be friends with a woman even though I find her sexually atrractive? yes. I am human, I reserve that right not to try and have sex with everyone I meet.


    are u saying that if a man desires a woman, he is well within his rights to fulfill that desire even without her consent because it is 'natural' to wnat to have sex? I'd bet you would say no. You see, We have decisions to make, we are not hardwired like animals, we have the use of our faculties, we have reason, we have moral obligations, we have principles which we act upon. Thus, we have the ability to have a friendship where sex doesn't even come into it, if we so wish.



    decency to me isn't a facade, its a fact of life. I'm not saying sex is evil, im saying it is not the be all and end of all of what I wish to define my relationships.

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  11. M.Maestro

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    all i know is... i'd rather my girl have girl friends than guy friends... but if she got one, i dont care.
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  12. Noncentz

    Noncentz Sieg Heil, M'fer!

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    I'm amazed that you had nothing on your schedule today Captain' save'ahoe! da da da!

    BALDERDASH! , No man looks at a women for friendship unless it is his cousin and or relative of some sort.

    STFU, the bullshit that runs from your gibbering mouth is pitiful.
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    Who wants a woman as a friend?, seriously? who wants to hear about her day? her relationship troubles?, her constant phone calls .. ? the rest of the pointless actions girls always talk about?!?!?!?!?

    I will put up with it ONLY if I have a chance to fornicate with her, if not I do not, will not put up with it.

    Girls are objects not people, having a friendship with a woman will be as deep as your friendship with your favorite puppy.
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  13. This post reeks of a guy gettin hurt and thus puts on a front. talkin about you will only be willing to talk about a womans day to day life if you may have the chance to fornicate.lol, how shallow is that? ever thought about the ish she has to put up with from you?

    p.s. I only half responded to this, because I feel like you wanted to put women down more than you wanted to respond to my post.
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  14. urban_tactics

    urban_tactics aka johnny cockram

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    female friend = layaway pussy

    i dont care what these lame ass dudes is sayin...they lyin to themselves.......
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  15. nope, it doesn't necceserily follow the the guys are lame or liars

    I have female friends who I dont see as sex on layaway...

    why? Cus sex ain't everything.
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  16. mama21

    mama21 panama-red@blackplanet

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    this is the exactly the reason why i feel females want to chill with guys. i used to that when i was younger it did teach me alot about how some guys think about women in general, kind of like digging in their minds, but not really having to do it. they set themselves up eventually. it's not always a sex thing from a females point of view. it's not anything bad, you're just learning.
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  17. PinkcHica

    PinkcHica hip hop addict

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    i have a lot of male friends and I agree with both sides. I just want to be friends with them but if I was just wildin' on day and came to one of them and was just like "lets fuck" ....i don't think they would decline. I'm not saying all of them but just my single male friends.

    but really who knows what they would do. I should conduct an experiment.
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  18. Skrybe

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    I really think you should. We need to test some subjects, and see whose theory holds up.
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  19. M.Maestro

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    Word, so we still on for Monday right?
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  20. Look im Gangsta

    Look im Gangsta New Member

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    I agree with the primate.
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