Yeah I agree 200% with what you said, I didnt jump into detail because the post was long already. heres a little break down. Don't go out to bars/clubs as you normally would for a whole month because that puts you in "hunting mode" which you don't want to be in, fucks up your whole mentality of just befriending a girl. Then you start being a social butterfly, if you arent take small steps, talk to women at the grocery store then the clothing store then asking whens the bus coming at bus stop then asking a girl where she got her bracelet cause you think it would be cool for your cousin. on and on... At this point you should be fairly social, so start the befriending at school/work/gym.. try and go to social niche gathering like a art show or wine tasting whatever.. I suggest not going and asking for a number, its difficult in the beginning, instead start up a conversation, build a little rapport and then on a HIGH NOTE of he convo say this: "hah hey I gotta go but whats your facebook name I will add you" The is socially accepted pretty much everywhere nowadays, as long as you were just a cool person to talk to. Little more rapport on facebook, then invite her out to the cool bar, what i didnt mention is, the girl will not come along alone most likely, she will bring a friend or two, you should actually tell her "come with your friends, im gonna be there with mine" *i didnt add above in original post and probably confused people* You being a cool guy, hyping up a really awesome bar they never been to, telling them to come with their friends to checkout the beer pong or i usually make some dramatic story about the bar like "their pet monkey takes shots every hour, its amazing" Hopefully I cleared that up because the original post did have some gaps. P.S. this isn't really a ME thing, if I did something 5 times and it works 4, it still doesn't mean a damn thing which such a low number. This is huge community thing, done -> tested, works like a charm, and we move on to other ish. So its kinda funny when people say "omg this is crap, you get no girls obviously" but i also understand why they would say that, from not understanding why it works.