here's one that comes up every once in awhile: Do you think its ok/beneficial to give your child a smack, slap, tap? or does this just have a detrimental effect on the child? As a kid I got smacked occasionally and I don't really look back and see it as something that was out of order. In my personal experience with children I have found that reasoning with the child is the best method if he/she is mature enough. I think you have to be consistent and use all the methods at your disposal in moderation. If you are a person with short patience and shout and shout, it doesn't work and the child builds up a quick immunity to this so when you really do need to get the child's attention, shouting isn't enough. On the other hand, if you try and be as patient with your child as possible and persuasive with it, raising your voice rarely but authoritively works best. So what about hitting? I think hitting should always be the last resort and then it depends on the circumstance. I don't think excessive physical discipline helps matters at all and is likely to cause some psychological problems along with resentment for the parent. I think that If the child can grow up to appreciate why the parent physically disciplined them and can see by their own reasoning that it was perhaps for their own good then I am inclined to believe that the parent did right by the child. I think physical discipline can be done responsibly and irresponsibly. responsibly is with the childs' best interests at heart moderated and balanced according to the age/maturity of the child and situation. Irresponsible is punishment without any thought in sight to better the child in the long run or have them learn some kind of value from the discipline. Therfore you shouldn't let correction turn into cruelty. If you do, you crossed the line.