[Black] Woman Walking...

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  1. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    check this video out: http://http://thecwexperience.wordpress.com/2008/09/23/black-woman-walking-tracey-rose/


    It deals with the issue of women being harassed [catcalls, invasive staring, name calling, etc] by men when women walk by on the streets. This piece specifically addresses black men & women, but I'm interested in hearing from everyone on this b/c I know this is not an issue that only happens with/between black folks.

    Ladies: does this ever happen to you? How do you deal with it? How does it make you feel? How do you respond?

    Share your thoughts...
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  2. Mr ExZ

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    fact: i can and will holler at every single girl i see walkin

    take it as flattery n keep movin if u dont
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  3. RealMS

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    I can't see the video/link

    I've had this kind of thing happen many atimes. I could be washing my car in the driveway and have ppl. pass by and tap their horn, and one time had a guy stop and roll down his window talking all kinds of sh*t. Gas station....I'm pumping gas & as soon as I'm finished and getting into my car.."psst....psst....HEY" or walking into a store & having the SAME guy tell me hello, goodbye, what's your number. Dudes whistling on campus & then getting mad saying 'oh she's too good' I don't even think they're enrolled b/c all the time they're just hanging in the union or quad EVERYDAY ALL DAY. Or even at a redlight or in traffic-rev their engines......it can go on and on.

    I really don't say much in response to any of this...I give them a certain look and keep going about my business. I've had a few come up to me and say that I'm beautiful, etc. and I tell them thank you & that's that for the most part.
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  4. SeeSon

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    There's going to be a time when the women that are "subjected" to this will long for men to still notice them [dunno]
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  5. DaAlmightyDolla

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    if u gonna make a video about females being harassed then at least have good looking females. i didnt even finish the thing.... i need porn now
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  6. MiSt_Of_CoNfUsIoN

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    Its never flattering and always insulting.

    If you find a girl attractive why can't you just approach her and say hello? Not " hey.. baby girl...boo.. shorty.. sexy" or any other degrading nickname that could pop into your head at the moment. A simple hello would catch me completely off guard because it NEVER happens that way.
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  7. Ignorant

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    Oh, cry me a freakin' river... boo hoo

    I don't complain when girls catcall me... I love every minute of it.

    Just like dudes who bling and floss hypocritically want to call women 'gold diggers' for trying to be all up on them... I feel the same way about women who dress provocatively, eeither showing lots of flesh or every curve in tight clothing, then complaining when men take notice.

    If being beautiful or sexy is such an inconvenience to you, I say do things to minimize it... stop gettin' your hair done, don't wear makeup, wear more conservative clothing, etc... then maybe the problem will subside... otherwise, deal with it, because you can't change people.
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  8. Ignorant

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    Co-sign... what's funny, though, is that when women are in a group and there is one who really stands out as being the most attractive, the other less attractive ones get mad when she gets all the attention... I've seen it happen all the time.
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  9. RealMS

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    I can do all of that & guaranteed it'll still happen. But oh well, as long as none of them are stalking my ass I'm fine.
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  10. MiSt_Of_CoNfUsIoN

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    I shouldn't have to dress like a bag lady because some men are arrogant pigs.

    If you seriously can't see how a female may find being yelled at, grabbed, touched, or given cutsy nicknames offensive then maybe you should ask your mother or grandmother how she feels about it.
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  11. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Do you think women should be flattered by and appreciative of any type of attention they receive from men they pass by on the streets?
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  12. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Have you ever feel threatened or unsafe in one of those situations? Insulted? Appeciative? Special? Harrassed? Disrespected?


    So what makes the difference between the types of attention you will respond to and the types you give "the look" to or ignore?
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  13. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Possibly. However, I'm not so sure they will long for the types of behavior they're discussing having been "subjected" to in this particular video.

    Did you watch it?
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  14. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    How do you usually respond in those situations?

    Has a man ever called anything out to you on the streets that you actually liked or appreciated or that made you want to get to know him?


    You have never been approached in a respectful way? What do you have against the nicknames?
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  15. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Did you watch the video? This had nothing to do with women who dress provocatively; these are women dressed in plain clothes, going about their day, minding their buiness.
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  16. tight-eyes

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    Do you think any of the women in that video had any reason to be upset or offended by the event and behaviors they decribed?
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  17. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    I think that is an important fact to note: this kind of behavior isn't always the result of women dressing provocatively or purposely trying to solicit the attention.

    And that is a major part of this video, IMO. Thats what I would like to dicuss.
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  18. tight-eyes

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    The truth is, you could do all of that and still be subjected to abuse or harassment. Even in countries where women dress extremely modestly (due to religious reasons, etc), there is still sexual abuse.

    I truley do not believe that the crux of that type of behavior lies in the way women dress.
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  19. RealMS

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    Unsafe? Yes. In more than one incident. I've been followed before while driving, and a different situation where I had someone follow me after leaving a club. Same guy I turned down b/c I refused to give my number. I didn't make note of being followed until after I turned around and noticed the same guy walking behind for the past 5-10 minutes. I was also with a girl friend of mine while this took place. That was creepy. Scared the hell out of me. After I realized this he quickly went ghost.

    Insulted, harassed, disrespected-all of the above. I can go on for days about crazy things that have happened to me before.



    I guess it all depends on the manner or lack of. I've had a woman come up to me once just to tell me she thought that I was "very pretty" & I told her thank you. Same goes for an older man who walked up to me in a public place and asked me a few questions related to appearance, and it was not rude at all. If I feel any type of threat I will not react in a cordial way. Or a disrespectful way...I will get away from it as much as possible.
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  20. Mr ExZ

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    as long as its not blatantly disrespectful, absolutely

    if i hit you with a yeo yeoo.. or a hey how you doin

    Even a DAMN! when u walk pass.. its flattering and im admiring your beauty

    if im like damn bitch whattup with that fatttttttyyyy

    then yeh its inappropriate

    i would say girls are too stuck up half the time to be truthful
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