"Being Single"...

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  1. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    nice read I received...

    Too often people want what they want, or think they want at the moment, which is usually "happiness" right now. The irony of their impatience is that only by learning to wait, and by willingness to accept the bad with the good do we usually attain those things that are truly worthwhile. I have a blessing which is sometimes seen as a curse. I am blessed with the gift of being single.

    For most of the twenty-something young professionals, it seems the world has already come up with it's own set of expectations on how we should live life. The world expects us to finish school in our early twenties, get a job, find the love of our lives by the time we reach our mid-twenties, marry and have kids. But the thing is, not everyone sees their dreams come true in the same way.


    The Art of Contentment.

    For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I'm sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome,beautiful, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one.

    Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you're willing to see it through. It means you don't walk away everytime things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn't mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.


    A Time to Know Yourself Better.

    Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interest and passions without having to ask another person's approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you're still romantically unattached. It's all in the mind.

    Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don't know who and what you really are?


    A Choice Between Good and Best.

    Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it's between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won't hear music, or feel magic to know who's best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn't need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.


    Take your time, the world will wait.

    Being married doesn't guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn't guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you're better off unattached.


    Living Life.

    Don't put your life on hold for Mr. and Mrs. Right but don't let it waste away with Mr.or Mrs. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It's not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with it's most wonderful blessings.
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  2. seraph

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    you've dont it again

    i wanna hit you on aim, and you can send me all this sentimental stuff

    i find it really refreshing to read




    Being single, has good and bad moments. Sometimes you feel like you need nobody, like the world is yours to explore and expirience. Its a time where you canlive immaturely and remember your childhood..

    BUT


    Being single, also has many low points- testing times that make or break you. Theres times when, you just wanna have that 'somebody' around and because he or she isnt, you can sometimes find yourself taking what comes along..


    I think alot of the people, especially guys, that continually say they 'dont need a partner' , are all too scared of rejection OR have not expirienced the feelin of knowin you got someone whose got YOUR back.

    I think being in a relationship has ups and downs, but the ups should (in a healthy relationship) outweigh the bad times..

    Word.
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  3. M.Maestro

    M.Maestro Ghost

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    Im glad being single now. I can put my all in my music and ain't gotta worry about a chick's hot breath breathin down my neck.
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  4. Al Murder U

    Al Murder U Lyrically...

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    i dunno how i feel.
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  5. Halloween Jack

    Halloween Jack Heavens Demon

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    this convo i had on ain definitely explains why im staying single forever on...

    HallowJack31: i can be a bitter spiteful son of a bitch when i feel wronged
    HallowJack31: and i dont go back on those feelings
    HallowJack31: cuz when i actually acknowledge those feelings
    HallowJack31: i've been harboring them for a long ass time
    HallowJack31: and its too late now
    ********83: i see
    HallowJack31: yeeaah
    HallowJack31: thats y im all fucked up in the game now
    **********83: closed in? dont want to feel anything?
    HallowJack31: shit yeah
    HallowJack31: fuck feelings
    *******3: hmm ok
    HallowJack31: i cant trust girls nemore
    *******83: i see
    HallowJack31: cant trust myself to be a gentleman either
    HallowJack31: and i dont want/expect anyone else to either
    *********83: understood.
    HallowJack31: thats why i cant be in a relationship now..
    HallowJack31: im not healed from the last one
    HallowJack31: and ill probly take out my hatred on a girl who could've been really nice
    HallowJack31: and done nothing wrong to me
    HallowJack31: and she'll probly think she did
    ********83: good thinkin
    HallowJack31: ;-)
    HallowJack31: im stupid but not dumb
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  6. yuppi

    yuppi da raisin

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    everone is gay

    alexander the great has returned
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  7. ~S*T*A*R*M~

    ~S*T*A*R*M~ Goddess

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    wow.. a lot to think about. good post!
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  8. Mr ExZ

    Mr ExZ evolved

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    wtf.. i hope thats not u breakin shit off wit ur girl or somethin yo, no offense but with the one word answers n shit seems like she wasnt feelin u at all
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  9. Speedy Gunzalez

    Speedy Gunzalez Awareness is my Alias

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    Tight-Eyes...

    I just wanted to say you are single-handedly holding Ladies Delight down!

    Keep it up
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  10. Speedy Gunzalez

    Speedy Gunzalez Awareness is my Alias

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    I have a friend who is 32 years old and she is always complaining about being seing at that age and I echoed essentially the same position as the author of this piece.

    However, she says that she at a point at her life where her identity has been established and she has everything she wants except for love. This article seems to focus on people in their 20's being single, so I guess age adds another dimension to "problems" being single.
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  11. Steve Schade

    Steve Schade Bears>you

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    I'm single again, not that big of a deal. I've got four women sweatin me right now and I just really don't care, nor wish to put in effort at this moment to work towards a relationship because I'm focusing on me at the moment. But yeah decent write.
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  12. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    thanks, Speedy... I'm on break from school right now, plus I moved out to this town in the middle of nowhere not too long ago so I have a lot of free time.

    translation: I ain't got shit else to do.

    that age thing most definitely adds a new dimension to it... particularly in women who feel that "biological clock" getting louder and LOUDER. Come to think about it... I actually hear my older guys friends say the same thing, too, so I guess it's not really gender specific.

    I think younger folks tend to get into relationships thinking with their hearts, not their heads... so it's easier for them to jump into relationships because they live in the moment and still have that youthful optimism that things will magically work themself out. Older folks tend to consider things like "compatibility" and long-term goals when looking at a potetial mate, which limits their pool of eligibles.

    which begs the question: Do you think it's harder to find someone you're compatible with once you're older and actually "know" who you are and what you want in life..?
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  13. ~S*T*A*R*M~

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    First, I think it's a matter of experience and wisdom rather than a question of age itself. But to answer the question, no not at all. In theory, that should make it easier. The better someone knows who they are, the faster the should be able to distinguish between what is good for them and what is not; what will work with their life and what won't. But knowing yourself can lead to two major pitfalls in relationship hunting. First, an older person has had decades to dream up the perfect fit, and to constantly redesign their ideals (usually based on bad relationship experiences). So, in essence, it might make them quicker to dismiss a potential mate, or make them "too picky." Secondly, being older and still unlucky in love could put anyone into a perpetual state of woe. It might lead to a different problem in that they're so desperate to find a mate that they'll lower their standards. A relationship like this would probably end quickly simply because the person knows themselves so well. It will eventually surface that this person isn't right for them, and again they'll find themselves single, and further down in their cycle. Overall, I think wisdom and experience come with age, so that would probably make it easier to find the right match. (Imagine a Maya Angelou type getting with a wife-beater.. it ain't happening. Even though she's in her seventies, she seems like a lady who knows herself in and out and what she wants out of life.) So, regardless of of other problems that may arise because of it, knowing yourself will definitely give you insight into who and what you want in your life.
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  14. keyarag

    keyarag Gone But Not Forgotten

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    That was tight and right on time especially with the things that I am going through
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  15. doubl3

    doubl3 aka AyHay

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    arh, i wanted to save this, so i could read it later, but my copy and paste is acting stupid. Is this on another website?..if so, could you post it, would be appreciated..
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  16. 81sweetness

    81sweetness brunette's do it best!

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    I love being single. I have "boyfriends" but nothing serious at all. being single is a way of life, not a choice for me.
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  17. BLACKANGEL

    BLACKANGEL Angelic Professor

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    That is to damn long to read right now... But i will try to read it later... What's up with you Ms. Tight Eyes...
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  18. tight-eyes

    tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady!

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    Hey BLACKANGEL... long time no see! I'm chillin, trying to keep up with my school work and ever-demanding social life... lol. How about yourself..? How are the boys..?
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  19. BLACKANGEL

    BLACKANGEL Angelic Professor

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    Girl my boys are out of control... My oldest is 14 and i just don't know what to do... Other than that i'm just working and dealing with life... Just living right now... I'm happy all is well with you...

    As for the thread.... There's a time for everything... I will be 32 March first and I must admit I have that itch and i have had it for a couple of years now... Being single has mos def made me a better person... a little bitter...ha ha ...but better...
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