Discussion in 'Ladies Lounge' started by mr.rip, Jul 17, 2008.
Are you talking about Samii's answer?
If my girl got pregnant by another dude i'd be gone in a second. Ain't no way im gonna be around all that drama and perhaps raise another man's child that was a product of infidelity. My dignity wouldn't allow it. I'd rather be single for life than get trapped in a situation like that.
I don't see it as being "woman enough" to stay, more like "woman enough" to leave and I would. I've played someones fool and I've learned from first hand experiences that once they cheat and you forgive them it's like a secret signal that it's ok for them to do it again.
Trust is a really important component in any type of relationship and it's also one of the hardest things to regain once lost, that's if you're ever able to trust that person again.
I can forgive, but I can't forget and I'd rather move on with my life then live life in question about the one I am supposed to spend my life with. That would drive me insane.
Depends... I don't think men are monogamous anyway... not really. I don't think its in their nature...
But if I find out you been raw dogging not only am I leaving you I'm destroying whatever shit you leave in my vicinity!
rip why am I heartless??
bc I don't give a fuck about some kid that was conceived out of my mans infidelity?? bc id rather send them both packing than "stand by my man"?? bc I would suggest she get an abortion to rectify her mistake??
where was everyone elses heart when I got cheated on? the kid didn't ask to be created, but I didn't ask to get screwed over...someones gotta lose. id rather it be a fetus than me.
if logic makes me heartless, then I'll take that deal.
lmao samii you are 2 cute haha i wasn't talking bout you at all haha. i'm saying some peeps are lol i must of hit a nerve lol mad love for u lady. breath boo lol slooooooooowly haha And mist like i know you not talking bout samii lol don't make me bust yo ass rip lol mist get a warm cup of milk and a cup cake and call me in the morning. lol
man you're right...I came @ you hard...let me "wooosah" lol
it hit a nerve...it never happened 2 me...but it hit a nerve...imma leave it @ tht.
luv ya rip lol
lol, I was on the same page as samii.. like waaaaait a minute man. But.. eww.. who drinks warm milk? Thats nasty. I'll take the cupcake though. =)
lol ok lets get a group hug lol. it's cool
wait no.. I'm serious.. people drink warm milk?
Honestly, I think a real WOMAN should leave that man faaaar behind. No one deserves to be cheated on, and if you can't realize that you're worth more than that, you have a lot of growing to do. IMO
thats's real talk Miss
been cheated on and forgave her, shouldn't have... you live and learn.
I think the responses here are all pretty typical and that is to be expected without actually being in this type of scenario. What I would be interested in hearing is for everyone that has already replied to answer the question again, except lets say the guy/girl is exceptional. One of those people that is rare that you subconsciously felt was out of your league. S/He is elite in every possible way (ie. looks, money, ambition, lineage, etc.). Would that change the way you would handle the situation?
If he/she's cheating on you they obviously aren't exceptional as far as their morals are concerned and they don't care enough about you nor do they respect you/the relationship. There's enough quality guys/girls out there to not have to deal with a cheater
I guess I've never been in that type of situation before. And I really hope I don't, because I may still leave.
Really though, my ex who was my s.o. at the time always used to say that kind of thing..something along the lines of: "Well if you did (so and so) to me, I would be disappointed, but I would forgive you and still want to make this work." Always said that, trying to make me feel guilty when he was the guilty party. Trust is a very important factor. It's all a part of growing up I guess.
Exactly, how exceptional can someone really be if they can't even be faithful to their significant other? I mean, the way I see it, a relationship is a partnership, and requires a level of mutual respect, how much can someone respect you if they can cheat on you? I think it's pretty much common sense... life is WAY too short not to be happy and I don't see why anyone would waste time in a relationship like that.
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