Yea true, there are a lot of men like that, but its hard to live that way, because of the past, because of tradition. You see we stil have pre0conceived ideas of what we expect men and women to be like, and often they come out concioulsy or subconciously. I am betting most of the men you speak of have at least somewhat rejected traditional values and are at leasty partly feminists. I still think the majority of men carry tradiotional views about women, i think the majority of women still liked to be viewed in the traditonal way when it suits them, too. I look for a woman who has all the qualities you speak of, but if I am being brutally honest the reality of it, isn't perfect, because when these two people come together, the roles of being man and woman become blurred and each of you do not know what your role is. You can communicate ofcourse, but it is very hard to get rid of masculine and feminine expectation altogether. sorry for not making this a shorter post.