This didn't go in the 'Man enough' forum, because i'm not.. I would like complete strangers opinions on a situation i am in. Basically, my ex-girlfriend and i split up after 18 months, the reason we split up isn't important but it wasn't anything to do with cheating, wanting anyone else or not wanting to be together, but i was the one who ended it. We split up at the end of january, we didnt really stay in contact right away as it was hard for both of us, after a month or so - we started texting small talk every now and then, nothing really specific. But i was realising that i missed her and still wanted to be with her, Then last weekend, (which coincidentally was her birthday) we started talking properly and i asked if we could maybe meet up on sunday after she had been out, to sit down and talk everything out, she said yes and everything was cool, here's the issue... I work part time in a nightclub in my area, I knew she was going to be there that night to celebrate her birthday with all her friends, which wasnt going to be a problem for me, or her - Sure enough, about 2am and she comes into the club, already pretty drunk - with a bunch of her friends. We make a bit of small talk, but as im working - couldnt really spend much time with her, so i left her to do her own thing. It gets to about 3am and it's quietened down, so we start talking properly, she says she really loves me, would do anything to get back with me and she has been miserable the last 2 months, I tell her that i still love her, i miss her and i wanna talk things through and see what happens. She agrees and that's pretty much the last thing we say before she leaves to go home. Next morning, i wake up - she calls me and said she wanted to talk to me, it turns out - that after she left my work, she went to another pub (again with her friends) and was intending to go to her girls house to keep drinking, but her and her other friend couldnt find it, so they end up walking home. It started snowing during this time and my ex didn't want to leave her friend walking in the snow by himself, so she invites him in. (Yes, that's where it's going...) They end up in her bed, they sort of have sex (her description was; they didn't 'finish', he was tiny, she regrets it more than anything and all it was was 2 friends who were two drunk having a laugh) She says that she barely remembers anything of the night and that she was far too drunk. She was in tears when i went to her place, saying she's fucked up, i'm obviously really hurt at this point but because she was single although it sucks, i can't really be mad. but more-so because of the things she and i said before she left the club. We end up talking about everything and i can see how genuine she's being about it all. She assures me it was because she was lonely, it was her birthday and it wasn't planned and i can accept that, but obviously im still a bit .. hurt about it all. I mean, i do still want to talk things through and be with her and she was technically single when this happened.. What are your guys thoughts about it all?